"A true man does not promise, he commits. A true woman does not demand, she thanks."
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Those could be the exact feelings I had when I first read that quote, haha! As a wife, I struggle with this. If you hadn't noticed.. I have kind of a big mouth. I don't think I'm 'mean' per se, but I do 'get on' my husband quite often about things that need done around the house, about purchases he has made, etc. Of course, I try not to nag. I'm subtle (or at least I THINK I am, haha!)
For example: (trash is overflowing out of the trash can-- his duty!) So, I laugh and say, "Wonder if this trash will evaporate?" *giggle giggle* to which he replies, "Oh, baby, I'll get it soon..." He wasn't upset about my little joke.... but he knows it was merely a smirky way of me saying 'HEY YOU! THIS TRASH ISN'T GOING TO TAKE OUT ITSELF!"
Ugh. I never wanted to be a naggy wife. I always wanted to be cool, calm.. laid back. But instead, I find myself griping about the littlest things that E does. Shaving his beard and leaving hair in the sink. Baby-powdering his manly region so he doesn't chaff, but getting baby powder all over the bathroom floor. Leaving his clothes right in front of the hamper. Leaving his shoes in front of the door so I trip over them coming in. Leaving his plate BESIDE the sink as opposed to in it... oh, I know, I could seriously go on, haha!
But truth of the matter is-- I feel like I'm driving him away some days by complaining about these. Do I feel like he should have his way and do whatever he wants without regard to consequences? Nope. But looking at the bigger picture... is leaving his plate beside the sink really that terrible? Is it too hard for me to put it in the sink without opening my chops? I mean, honestly-- my husband is a great husband. He works very hard for our family. He always puts us first. He would give me a million dollars to get whatever I wanted if he could. He cleans out my car. He mows the lawn. He works 11 hour shifts and still comes home and does outside house work. He weeds the garden. He makes bottles for Tayler. Changes her diaper. Helps me with baths. Throws the laundry in (when I ask LOL).... He really does a lot, so why do I always focus on the things he DOESN'T do that drive me bananas? LOL
A true woman doesn't demand. She thanks.
So, in writing this blog, I've realized I need to change my focus. Maybe if I start thanking him for the things he does do around the house (as opposed to constantly demanding more..), he might be more apt to doing other things (such as making the bed? LOL) I am a naggy wife and I don't want to be. I want to be a thankful wife. I want to appreciate him and pray that through this appreciation, he wants to do the things I nag him about minus the nagging...
